Valentine’s Day can be more than a holiday. It’s can simply be a day to honor the person you love who just might be a saint for putting up with you at times. The one who greets your extended family with a smile and laughs at your silly jokes that aren’t really funny. The one who thinks you’re hot when you haven’t even combed your hair.

There is a holiday coming up that not everyone is thrilled about.


For those who love it, they think the stars illuminate brighter that night just for them. For those who loathe it, they’d rather bow down to the porcelain throne and then pay homage to what some refer to as a “Hallmark holiday.”


But the truth is Saint Valentine’s Day is valid. The day was established by Pope Gelasius in the year 496, but then it was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969. That’s probably when it was picked up by the card companies.


Still, I can remember in elementary school how carefully I chose just the right Valentine card for each classmate. Something special for that girl who caught my eye and something non-descript for that boy who maybe liked her, too. I asked one of the ladies in the office what they remember, and she said it was thinking about a boy she liked and then pulling a candy heart, the one with words on it, out of the bag to see what fate had in store. The words determined their destiny together. As a kid, Valentine’s Day was also another occasion for candy.


Regardless of how you feel about it, Valentine’s Day can be a great opportunity to show your love to the one you love, even though it shouldn’t require a special occasion. It can be anything from a simple card expressing thoughts you are unable to say, to a meaningful, inexpensive gift that represents how you feel about them. Maybe you’d rather create a memory to celebrate this non-holiday, holiday.


Maybe it’s not in your nature to go dancing or give cards and gifts, but sometimes in a marriage, we are called to make sacrifices for our spouse. If they really enjoy getting dressed up a little and spending time alone with you, then do it for them. Perhaps your spouse is a sports fanatic, but you think the Super Bowl is a big casserole dish. Step out of your comfort zone and buy tickets to a sporting event. Nothing defines love like doing something you know is more meaningful to your spouse than you.


Instead of debating the validity of Valentine’s Day, why not embrace it because you are blessed to be loved and to love someone else. Not everyone has experienced that feeling, and you shouldn’t take it for granted.


It doesn’t have to be a gooey-love marathon, just a gesture of affection for the one who puts up with your roller-coaster moods, lets you watch what you want on TV or does your designated chores in addition to theirs when you’re stressed out. The one who greets your extended family with a smile and laughs at your silly jokes that aren’t really funny. The one who thinks you’re hot when you haven’t even combed your hair.


Valentine’s Day can be more than a holiday. It’s can simply be a day to honor the person you love who just might be a saint for putting up with you at times.


Dan Seaborn is a non-denominational Christian evangelist and a published author of such books as "The Necessary Nine: How to Stay Happily Married for Life!" He is the founder of Winning at Home Inc., a ministry that focuses its attention on the relationships between a husband and wife and between parents and their children.